GriffFX4

Oh but that's justified

FX4362

Hormones, dude. Just let it go. Maybe have a sit down with her and talk about it in 6 months.

greyboosted

I got a divorce. She told me if I bought a new truck she was leaving.. Needless to say I got the truck lol

Truckin

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Go into the witness protection program.. buy a bigger badder truck..

lucky644

but she's doing that for YOU. Haha

BDYY

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Damn, I'm getting married in October and y'all got me scared now. And I have a few thousand more to spend on my truck!

murf

Do you have any other expensive hobbies? I hunt. I love it. I went a lot before her, with her, and if she leaves... I'll still be hunting. She complains about the trips I go on. I tell her that it's my hobby. I don't go out, I don't collect crap, I don't play golf, I don't fish (much), I don't spend any money besides on the one hobby I have. She has come to the understanding that if I wasn't hunting....I may be out spending money on other things.

We all need hobbies. Things that keep us from going insane. If tinkering with your truck is yours, you need to voice that to her. Lord knows she has hobbies she spends money on.

Also it's a matter of money. If there's a lot laying around then they never have a problem with what you do, but if there is little or your spending cuts into her play things then you get laid into.

KILOFINAL

Apparently not.....hence the divorce. Lol

RLXXI

Simple, keep separate bank accounts, dedicate one account to the household or just sit down like I and my wife did.

We added up all the monthly bills and split them all up evenly adjusting for differences in income, yeah the wife MUST have an income for this method to work.

Once you figure out the ratio of debt to income, split up the expenses accordingly, each paying for what ever bill is agreed upon, I carry the lions share due to the fact I make more than she does.

Once the household income/outgo has been satisfied each gets to spend what ever they have left over on what ever they like.

We never fight over $$$.

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Wiggum

well ... the honest truth is, I put money aside when I can that the wife is not tracking ... but it's not a LOT ... it's for the little things mainly. Also, I put myself through school and became an architect and contractor so that I could make enough money to support me, my family, and my "hobbies" while still putting money away for the education of my children. I live a modest life all things considered, and try to be frugal with my expenses on my hobbies.

Sometimes I use this "tactic" to keep things "calm" when I'm spending money ... I tell her something costs a reasonable amount I think she won't flip out about, and take my time until she's convinced it's ok to spend that money. Then, I supplement that cost with some of the money I have hidden away ... then, she thinks I only spent X when I actually spent 1.5X ...

And sometimes, she doesn't even notice things until well after the fact, and I give her the "I did that a long time ago" ... and she realizes that it obviously didn't bust our budget or make any real impact on our finances, and she lets it go.

I'm still laughing right now, almost a week after the fact, that she hasn't even notice that I got the front windows in my truck tinted. She's too busy with her work, the kids, me, her own shopping, and life in general to notice the "little things" that I do ...