Topic Sponsor
General F150 Discussion General Ford F150 truck discussions and questions
Sponsored by:
Sponsored by: Real Truck

What makes them do it

Thread Tools
 
Search this Thread
 
Old Sep 4, 2009 | 02:31 PM
  #11  
kooly1's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Joined: Mar 2009
Posts: 6,329
Likes: 9
Default

Damn, rough.
Reply
Old Sep 4, 2009 | 05:20 PM
  #12  
FOMOCO466's Avatar
Thread Starter
Senior Member
 
Joined: Nov 2008
Posts: 962
Likes: 16
From: VA BEACH
Default update

He wont make it through the night, they are getting a team together to harvest his organs, he was a donor on his DL, this was the wishes of the wife too, as she did this with her sister last year as well. Family is coming in tonight to see him for the last time.

I was asked by the wife to check out the house, incase the inlaws wanted to go by there and get a few things from the old house. It was planned you can see. He laid on the floor with a blanket under his head and did it...... we cleaned it for the most part already, just a few drops and a spot about the size of a pop can are left, everything else picked right up..... put no power over there I'll have to run a cord over to get the job done later.....talked to a friend who worked with him and he stated that he got a text saying that his tools were put in his storage shed... he texted back you finally cleaning out the old house...he text back YES.....15 min later he did it. He said if he wouldn't have been going into the kids school he would have called back and talked to him.... you just never know what you last words will be to someone.....remember to tell your loved ones how you feel.... cause you never know.
Reply
Old Sep 4, 2009 | 06:37 PM
  #13  
kooly1's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Joined: Mar 2009
Posts: 6,329
Likes: 9
Default

What's sad is now he has to face up to his family for one last night and explain to them that he's not going to be around anymore. That's a horrible ending.
Reply
Old Sep 4, 2009 | 11:10 PM
  #14  
FOMOCO466's Avatar
Thread Starter
Senior Member
 
Joined: Nov 2008
Posts: 962
Likes: 16
From: VA BEACH
Default the right thing to do now

Well the organ donation has started. I hear that you can help up to 20 people with this program.... It's one way for the family member to live on in others. Bone, skin, eyes, heart, lungs, kidneys, liver, ect ect science is a wonderful thing now days. He was a donor on his DL and the wife wanted it also....I guess it's the only upside to the story.
Reply
Old Sep 4, 2009 | 11:48 PM
  #15  
2wdf250's Avatar
.....
 
Joined: Jul 2009
Posts: 262
Likes: 0
From: Grand Prairie,Tx
Default

Now im not saying suicide is right, but i can tell you now from experience that what happens over in iraq will warp a mind (not mine) my brother has been a soldier about 4 years. He's been to iraq, and is currently in Afghanistan, and some of the story he tells about wha has happened to him over ther....its a wonder suicide doesnt happen more.
Reply
Old Sep 5, 2009 | 12:09 AM
  #16  
kooly1's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Joined: Mar 2009
Posts: 6,329
Likes: 9
Default

Yeah. In the last year two officers of my cities Police Department has committed suicide. Keep in mind that this is not NYPD. We have about 40 officers.
Reply
Old Sep 6, 2009 | 07:53 AM
  #17  
FOMOCO466's Avatar
Thread Starter
Senior Member
 
Joined: Nov 2008
Posts: 962
Likes: 16
From: VA BEACH
Default what to do next

All the damage has been done, it's time for the healing to start, the service will be Tues Evening. Time for the little one to start the rebuilding. The toughest part is just starting for the mom and the boyfriend, you can try all you want, but you can never take the place of a birth parent.
Reply
Old Sep 6, 2009 | 01:52 PM
  #18  
User14186's Avatar
Member
 
Joined: Feb 2009
Posts: 595
Likes: 1
Default

Originally Posted by FOMOCO466
First off please let me explain what I'm talking about. Last night I got back from the store to find three cop cars in my cul-da-sac. I got out of my truck and as I walked up my driveway I said (I Didn't do it) One officer that I know asked me to come over to him and wanted to ask me a question. He asked if I knew who drove the white F150 backed up into the yard next to my house. I said yes it's a friend of mine. They asked if I'd seen him today and I stated that I had, twice. They said someone called them and said they were worried about his health. I told them that I'd try and get into the house and check on him. I went to the front door and tried it, it was locked, I knocked a few times, called his neame and then remembered that he kept his garage unlocked. I tried the garage and got it open. I made my way to the inside door and tried it but it was locked. I knocked on it a few times and then tried to call his cell. Called it twice with no answer. A guy that was working on my roof said that they saw him go in and he didn't come out. I went back inside and asked the cops if I should kick the door in. They said that I could if I thought I was a good enough friend! I heard a friend say that he had just texted his girlfriend, I started to text him when it happened......POP.....after being in Iraq I knew what it was..... the cops said SHOT FIRED.... we all ducked down and they forced me out of the garage to the street. The drew their guns and all 4 of them tried to kick in the front door...that didn't happen... they moved into the garage and kicked it in... made their way in to the soon to be foreclosed house (no power/water ect...) a few sec later one cop came out went to his trunk and grabbed crime sceen tape.....my heart sank........A few officers went in and out...next thing I heard was the fire truck...... them minutes later the ambulance showed.....it's very hard coming back from Iraq and being trained to help in matters of someone being shot.... to have someone get shot 25 ft from you and not being able to do anything about it.. another friend showed up and asked how he was...I got a lil info and I knew he wasn't gone YET... He asked if the wife knew yet, I said no....he went to get her, she had just got home from school confrence with her three kids....11......6......3
after all was said and done at 3:30 am..... the shot went out at 7pm... we lft the hospital knowing that he was waiting to be pronounced brain dead.....a bullet from the top of the left ear, out the right temple.
What makes people think things are that bad that there is no one to talk to, no other way to handle emotions and or feelings.... he and the wife were split, he was with a former friend turned girlfriend, who I found out after ward told him he needed to leave..... but besides all that.....what about the kids....his boss stated to me that he'd been working the best he'd seen, spirits were high, a call at 6:51 to his wife he stated that he was looking forward to seeing the kids the next day....I call at 7 and nothing..then a POP.
I keep playing it over in my head... what would have happened if I would have just kicked the door in.......another friend told me this at the hospital.....one of three things would have happened.....
I would have got to him......
He would have just done it faster....
He would have tried to take us both....
Thinking about that helps a little....I was the frist on to the ER, and was with the wife through the whole thing, even left after see did.... now what do I tell my 8 yr old daughter....and what do her three kids get told....they just lost their aunt a yr ago...now father less....I don't get it!!
Hey brother i know exactly how you feel.I have been to iraq and trashcanistan.Being trained to help other ppl and not being able to do anything about it sucks man.

Long story short.I got a call about 3am from a cop i knew saying my friend is just sitting in his car and has a gun pointed at himself asking for his ex wife.Well the wife couldnt be reached so the cop called me instead as me and the guy in the car served together in iraq with the cop.The cop explained to me what was going on and i said i'm on my way.Well i call another friend that also served in iraq with us from the house phone and explain what was going and to meet me over their.That took about 2-3minutes.Well just as i get to the scene,pop,i'm like no please dont let that be what i think it was,and sure enuf he had just shot himself behind the right ear.I knew he picked that spot for a reason and i am pretty sure you can guess why he did also man.

So anyways i question myself on if i wouldnt have made the call to my friend i would have made it in time....B4 all this,he was doing good,just kicked drinking,found a good job,a good girlfriend,man he was shinning.He kept his sucidal feelings bottled up from us and had all of us fooled.....

I feel for you man.It sucks brother........Ya i know i'm along ways away,but you need anything by all means let me know,and i mean that......
Reply
Old Sep 9, 2009 | 07:53 AM
  #19  
FOMOCO466's Avatar
Thread Starter
Senior Member
 
Joined: Nov 2008
Posts: 962
Likes: 16
From: VA BEACH
Default Thanks to all

Well the end was last night. Everything went off smoothly, till we got to read the message board and someone posted a nasty gram on the web site, I'll post it on here later.....all the family in town and to whom ever saw it , it was the worst thing I think could ever have been posted.... it takes some real nerve, and lack of back bone....trust me even if you didn't know the guy, you can see that this wasn't right.
Reply
Old Sep 9, 2009 | 08:21 AM
  #20  
Good old Bill's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 4,658
Likes: 28
From: Henderson, NV.
Default Am with out words

Not knowing the man, my thoughts go out to you and your family. I remember the picture of you holding your little girl during the TOTM contest. Hang in there buddy and keep loving your children, thats why we are here.
Reply



All times are GMT -4. The time now is 07:07 AM.