MTMUSTOE

I've got an 03 I'm about to go to work on. Where can I find a good reference for selecting rims re thread title? I've seen 4x4s with ridiculous offset and it just doesn't turn me on. I like a little meat hanging out the side but I don't wanna wear out suspension premature or have half the tire sitting outside the fenders. Is there a chart or is this something you consult your local offroad shop on for input?