Originally Posted by RDFTS

This thread needs to move to Dr. Phil's forum and get off this F-150 forum.

Originally Posted by Al Kohalic

Exactly, as long as the bills get paid and money goes into savings each month then the rest of my paycheck is mine and the rest of hers is hers. She has never once told me how to spend my own money and I have never told her how to spend hers. We usually alternate or split on paying for date nights unless it is with friends. If we go out with my friends then I pay for the night's festivities and if we go out her friends then she pays. We have agreed to and have been doing this ever since we got together and we have never had an argument over who pays. I don't control her, she doesn't control me, we respect the fact that we are two individuals who want to be together, and we sit down and talk if there are any issues instead of just assuming everything is okay. I told her a long time ago that I don't play that stupid game of saying everything is okay when it is not or giving subtle hints. If you have an issue then say something so we can solve. Otherwise it is your fault for not clearly bringing it up. We have mutually agreed on this stuff along time ago. I know it may not work for everyone, but it works for us.

Originally Posted by rdkev

No, it's when you start dating them or marry them that these qualities emerge. I never said I was disrespectful to woman did I? I just see it daily, women driving around in cars their husbands payed for, in nice clothes their husbands pay for, on the way to a Mani pedi that their husbands pay for, and then they still cheat, lie and are disrespectful. My mom drives an ML63 Mercedes and gets to by whatever she wants... When my dad says something, it's the way. When he gets upset, she is quiet.... Sorry you don't agree with me. The lack of respect women have towards men these days is incredible. If you're happy with your arrangement, more power to you.

Originally Posted by Al Kohalic

Exactly, as long as the bills get paid and money goes into savings each month then the rest of my paycheck is mine and the rest of hers is hers. She has never once told me how to spend my own money and I have never told her how to spend hers. We usually alternate or split on paying for date nights unless it is with friends. If we go out with my friends then I pay for the night's festivities and if we go out her friends then she pays. We have agreed to and have been doing this ever since we got together and we have never had an argument over who pays. I don't control her, she doesn't control me, we respect the fact that we are two individuals who want to be together, and we sit down and talk if there are any issues instead of just assuming everything is okay. I told her a long time ago that I don't play that stupid game of saying everything is okay when it is not or giving subtle hints. If you have an issue then say something so we can solve. Otherwise it is your fault for not clearly bringing it up. We have mutually agreed on this stuff along time ago. I know it may not work for everyone, but it works for us.

Originally Posted by sterlingone

Dear rigrat2011......please send us all invitations to your "wedding."......I'm not holding my breath that YOU are not going to be the one thrown out of her life.
I would absolutely love to hear the way she talks about you with her girlfriends. I'll bet you get all the respect you deserve.
A piece of advice.....if you marry a "zero" it adds nothing to your life......

Originally Posted by Russ103

Rigrat2011.... never mind I don't think much needs to be said.

My wife and I have been together for nine years now and have always had a joint account and we each get whatever we want/can afford. Never had a problem with either one buying something outrageous where the other didn't agree.

Our money goes into improving our house for the most part. Whatever I spend on my truck I will never see again so I keep it "reasonable" (that's possible right?)

Originally Posted by rigrat2011

russ,

i'm not saying that my method is the "ultimate and proper way for a marriage"... i'm just saying that this is what works for us.

remember, marriage is about compermising and understanding. if she's never going to compermise with you on anything, then you're never going to be happy. if she can't understand that you need a little happiness, even if it's a man cave, then there's really no point into marrying a zero.

as for me... a "ten" hooked me and loves my A-hole humor.

she always laugh at my "Donald duck" moments, which usually **** me off more... causing her to laugh more, which cause she's not taking me seriously, causes me to "squack" more. lol

Originally Posted by Kornnut

I use them for myself. I just wish they were black. The amp ones are way to much coin.