The truth is that you may not have what it takes, you may not be committed enough, you may not have the discipline, you may not put in enough effort, you might not work hard enough, you do not believe in yourself, you're full of excuses, you get distracted too easy. To wrap it up in one statement: you really don't ing care enough.
These married officers really bother me at work. I should say that I'm not surprised, but it still bothers me. Had one today (good looking guy...) call me to the front of our office to ask me what time I go on lunch. To which I answered "never", and proceeded to ask him if there was a work-related question that he had. After he completely ignored me and asked if he could take me to lunch on Friday, I just had to walk away before I embarrassed him in front of the entire office... what gives, married men? Can any of you answer this for me, because it seems that the only ones that hit on me blatantly at work, are the married ones. I've got my own other half to babysit! I don't want another one whose wife will hunt me down and kill me! Lol
Here I'll tell you how it works in my experience. I prefer girls who are in a committed relationship. Why? The committed girls have something to lose so they're more willing to play around. Single girls tend to have "hope" that they can win you over and will try to disrupt your family balance to facilitate this.
I never lie and give a girl dreams about having a happy life together. I make it clear a fling is a fling and I guarantee they will have an amazing time. I always respect a girls wishes and if she's not down then I don't push the issue.
I was amazed at how many women fool around on their men. It is way more than most people know and the quiet cute innocent ones that are the craziest if you can break them out of their shell.